Pleasure & Sexual Response

First off, I'm glad to hear that your relationship in general, including your sex life, sounds like it's going well right now. That's certainly a great place to start from! There's no type of sex or orgasm that's "better" or more appropriate for a certain point in a relationship than another. So if...

You know, one of the neatest, most interesting things about sex from my perspective, is that what people do and don't enjoy is so diverse. One person's least favorite sexual activity is another person's favorite. I think that's really cool. All of our bodies, sexualities and situations are so...

Hi feministconundrums, Genital sensitivity -- and sometimes sensitivity of some other body parts, too -- is common for many people after orgasm. The length of time after an orgasm that it can or does last varies from person to person, experience to experience and it can often vary with age too. It...

It sounds like you're really struggling with these expectations you have for yourself. Let’s see if we can’t help you feel a little better about yourself. First, let me see if I can’t put this in perspective a little by clearing up a misconception. The average time it takes someone with a penis to...

My best advice is to just try and let yourself go there. I think the safest way to do that, emotionally, would be to first try that in whichever sexual situation you tend to feel safest in, whether that's alone, in your masturbation, or during sexual activities with a partner. More people than not...

Assuming that you're engaging in manual sex -- hands or fingers engaged with your genitals, fingering being one term for that -- to express or explore your sexual feelings or desires, fingering IS sex. Just like intercourse can be sex, just like oral sex can be sex, just like full-body massage can...

(I'm going to assume that when you say female, you mean person-with-vulva, since it sounds like when you talk about men, you mean people-with-penises. If I went the wrong way with those assumptions, let me know and I'll have a do-over with this one.) I think it's not a great idea to try and do this...

That's one of the best questions I've received in a long time. I wish more people would ask it! But. Umm. I can't actually answer it. I can't answer exactly what you're asking because human sexuality is one of the most diverse things there is, and that diversity includes how different everyone is in...

Before I say anything else, I want to make sure you know how typical it is to not reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse for receptive partners. I don't want to reinvent the wheel here since we've addressed this a lot, so I'll just give you basics on that, followed by some links if you want more...

yougivemefever's question continued: My boyfriend was hesitant to try to please me in the first place because he's inexperienced and gets frustrated. He gets upset he can't reciprocate. I don't expect him to just know what I like. I should be comfortable enough with my body to be able to show him...